Do's and Don'ts

💬 Communication Do's

✅ Practice active listening: Put down devices, make eye contact.

Validate emotions before offering solutions: "That sounds really frustrating."

Create regular "check-in" times: As recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Use the "First 15 Rule": Dedicate the first 15 minutes after reuniting to positive connection.

🚫 Communication Don'ts

❌ Don't minimize their feelings: "It's not that big a deal."

Avoid jumping into problem-solving before listening fully.

Don't use vulnerable moments to make a point: Focus on helping them feel seen.

Don't interrupt when they're opening up to you.

📌 Quick Reference Guide

Instead of Saying…
Try This…
"You always/never…"
"I've noticed that…"
"Why did you do that?"
"Help me understand what happened."
"You shouldn't feel that way."
"That must be really hard."
"Just get over it."
"What do you need right now?"

Based on communication guidelines from the CDC's Positive Parenting Tips.